Not too long ago, while visiting at my parents’ house, a trip to Home Depot was suggested for the sake of obtaining necessary items for a small home improvement project.
Out of my son’s mouth came the words, “Home Depot is a man’s store.”
This distressed me because we’re talking about a boy who sees a man cooking, doing dishes, and laundry (although he doesn’t do these things all on his own). I usually take out the trash. Much of the time, the things being done at home are being done by everyone together, regardless of gender.
And there is much talk of traditional gender roles around the table. So it was a little disheartening to see that, finally, society and the fact that traditional gender roles are constantly hammered into his head no matter where he is, and especially at church, he has succumbed.
So much for the little boy who thought it stupid that I couldn’t baptize him.
At any rate, it doesn’t help that everything has to be gendered these days. How do we make sure that women who use tools and guns are using the right tools and guns? Why, they have to pink, of course! (Language warning on that last link, for those that care.)
While I do agree that there can be differences between the genders, and I guess I have to believe that because I’m Mormon, I’m more interested in individual differences, and the fact that my gender doesn’t totally define me. Unfortunately, practically everything, from toys to whiskey, is gendered.
I don’t even like most of the stuff aimed at the ladies.
I worry that all this talk about “man” things and “woman” things will only serve to continue to limit options for members of both genders, due to social pigeonholing that is hard to escape.